Today I decided to switch things up a bit. Well actually, perhaps it was yesterday when I randomly decided to run on parts of my walk. If you know me, you know that was a huge decision.
It was today that my daily cards punched me in the face and made me realize that I did need to change up things for myself. Almost daily, I try to remember to pull three different cards for self-reflection.
Today's cards were:
Sanctuary (Affirmators)
"Choose a new direction." (angel oracle)
Four of Cups (tarot)
For my tarot cards, I like to consult the book "Tarot for Self Care." It gives easy to understand insight that feels relatable, useful, and practical. Today's card told me to "shake it up" essentially. It called me out for getting mentally apathetic and checking out recently. Which is exactly what I have found myself doing. It is mentally exhausting right now.
With my angel cards, I typically ask a question. Today's question was "Do I need to forgive those who have wronged me?" The thing I love most about these cards are how direct they are. "Choose a new direction." You can't get much clearer than that. I will continue on with my "shaking it up" theme.
Then my sweet little Affirmators card reminded me that I need to work on my self-care practices.
All of these things together really resonated with me. They all seemed to say "it's okay to hold and maintain your boundaries." This is often so hard for me, as I know it is for many people. You have to protect and take care of yourself first. In order to do that, sometimes you have to shake things up and make a change.
Often times that can include ridding yourself of toxic relationships. This can prove to be a massive challenge. If they aren't benefitting you in some way, what is driving you to maintain that friendship?
I have had a few close relationships end over the last few years. And it hurt. Really fucking bad. It still does when a good memory pops up. Looking back on those relationships and the depths of the end of them made me realize they were not supportive or healthy for me. Even though it was hard, it was time to move on and change things up.
Doing so allowed so much new space for new (and old) friendships to blossom and grow. Think of it like weeding your garden. Allowing the weeds to take over (and we all know they do eventually) isn't effective.
Shake things up. Try new routines. Get rid of toxic friends. Make new connections.
Grow new flowers in your garden.
